Mitch, who owns Bio Wheels, has been helping me with stupid newbie cx questions. He also puts on one of the biggest cx races in the country (women's purse prize this year is 10k). Sue, who works at Bio Wheels, was running the clinic. She was a very cool chick.
It was fun to meet some other female cyclists, and see Mary and her crew show up. I also met Mitch's wife Kate, who owns a pilates studio and has some wicked bikes that were on display. The hour and a half went by fast and I ate like 8 pieces of pizza. They also served wine and beer. Sue wants to keep this going, like every 6 weeks.
I'd like to find a bunch of women who'd like to race and form a women's team.
Dominic and I rode a great city ride today. It was coooooold. Last week I had the air on and this week it's getting down to the 40's. WTF. It was 52 when we left.
We rode downtown and then did some hills into Mt. Auburn. Those climbs got me good and warmed up. Ended up on Gilbert and took Montgomery all the way to Kenwood. Down Stewart and towards Mariemont for coffee at The Dilly. Then back to Mt. Lookout and through the sq. down to eastern. Fucking horrible headwind!! Headed back downtown and then west to Glenway hill.
36 miles total. It's so weird. I feel like that's nothing now, compared to what I was doing 2 months ago. Oh, I am wearing my helmet more and more.
Mom's surgery is Thursday. Her dog Jakie is coming to my house tomorrow night. It's going to be hectic around here.
Me and my Mom have been through a lot. She raised me alone. My brother and sisters were older than me. You just have NO idea the kind of shit I put her through. Once she had to fly to SF at the drop of a hat because I was in ICU and they didn't think I'd make it through the night. Can you imagine? Another time the cops called her asking for my dental records because they thought they had found my body. And then I don't know how many 4am phone calls begging her to western union me money......and she sent it 95% of the time.
After 10 years of putting her through that kind of shit, I OWE it to her to help as much as I can.
I think we have a strong bond but recently the fights have gotten worse. I don't know why. Stress of her getting old. Her being jacked up on pain pills all the fucking time. It's hard. I am grateful I can vent about it here. Thanks for your comments.
This picture was taken just a year ago when Dominic refinished that old bike for her. Now she walks with a cane and falls a lot.
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Good vibes to your mom- best wishes for a speedy recovery!
And, START THAT WOMEN"S TEAM! If you need tips- on USAC, kits, whatever- let me know. It's lots of hassles and paperwork but totally rewarding.
Your mom is so lucky to have you!!
I hope your mom's surgery goes well. I put my family through some terrible crap too, during my addiction. I'm forever trying to make sure she knows I am sorry and I love her. They do deserve this from us.
I'm sending you and your mom good mojo too. Feel free to apply it to the surgery or the fights or wherever it might help. Peace!
...glad to see you doing this local clinic & also the up coming cross clinic w/ katie compton...
...lotta work starting your own club but as julie sez, it's very rewarding...everybody gets a 'democratic' say in the direction & it makes it "yer baby"...
...being as it's such a healthy endeavor, the club itself & therefore the relationships & bonding are something you'll cherish for the rest of your life...
...sorry your mom isn't feeling up to par...tell her your "regulars" are sending their best for her op & recovery...buncha 'on-line' bike n' tri crazies from all over the country...sorry, groover..."& the world"...
...mom's are important to all of us in our lives...
ya, you can throw me in there too BGW,
Glad you are there for your Mom Judi, as I'm discovering that's what family is all about. I put my family through some crazy shit too, they were there for me 10 years later when I smartened up....now I've got my 89 year old dad, family and friends, that's all we've got...
I love that picture of your mom, it makes me cry though. I'm so sorry. Do what you can for her now, while you have her. I don't have a mommy any more and it sucks ass.
I think you should start that women's cycling team. I would join if I were there!
Thank God you survived your addiction--both for you and for your mom. I'm sure it was so hard for her to watch you go through it--but it would've been worse for her to really lose you. You gave her a real gift in getting well. This from a Mom's perspective.
I'm glad you're taking care of her. Hope surgery is successful.. Thinking of you!
My amends to my family and friends for my behavior when I was a drunken idiot is not saying I am sorry. It is about treating them like they deserved to be treated and becoming the person I should have been. Now I try to do for them and make their life better.
Sometimes I still feel incredible shame for actions in the past- and it is funny how stuff I forgot about will bubble up in my mind. I can't change those actions from the past. I can only try to do better going forward. Seems like you are doing that. And you can not take shit and still be there, it is a balancing act but can be done.
I remember when I started a tri team in the late 90's. I talked to a friend who owns the biggest bike shop in Georgia. His advice was: "DON"T DO IT!" He was right. You think you are have trouble with your mom? Just try dealing with a team of cyclists or triathletes. You have never dealt with a bigger group of babies in your life!
Dang, girl...I've got tears in my eyes. You're a good daughter. and friend! let me know if there's anything i can do to help.
I know what you mean about 36 miles not seeming like much. I'm doing 90 min rides and almost feel like 'um, what's the use?' lol.
Love the helmet!
Judi-Sending you some patience. Your Mom is probably scared. And some of the tension is probably your own fear too.
StL has a women's team-Team Revolution. I am no way close to being on par with these gals but I love that they're doing what they're doing. I see them sometimes when I'm out riding & they always wave and say Hi. They seem to be very supportive of women's cycling in all forms. Very cool.
...sorry, lily on the road...didn't mean to leave you out...
...being an ex-pat canuck who's spent the majority of his life in america, i sometime forget that this place is more than just "back room storage" for "oh, canada"...bwahaha !!!...
...***disclaimer***:- sorry guys...my local 'merican pals have made so many bad jokes throughout the years about "canada is just...blah, blah, blah (whatever, whatever)..." as their way of endearing themselves to moi, that i couldn't help myself...
The good things in life are worth fighting for. Both of you are fighting for it, even if times get heated. There's a lot of stress in both of you, and it's gotta come out. What's important is that you're there for each other.
And trust me when I say that your relationship with your mom is tighter than my relationship with both my parents. Good on ya.
Fight Mom fight!! My prayers are with her. I love my mom just like you. we all put our parents through a lot but based on your past story, I have a feeling your bond with your mom is just amazing.
Hope you are staying warm in Cincy. Come visit me if you need a 60-degree heat fix :)
during the stressful times we lean on the ones we love the most and you and your mom are leaning on each other now so it's no wonder there are some fights, but as you know, those will subside and you will both get through this!
Hope you can find some other gals to race with. It's way more fun with a team.
I rarely pray anymore, but I'll send some thoughts up for your mom. Wish I could do more.
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